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Defensive Posture

Posted: August 1st, 2013 | Author: | Filed under: Business, Culture, Leadership, Management | No Comments »

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Hi & Welcome to this months TOL.

Have you ever noticed those people who take that defensive posture?  You ask them a question but they don’t answer that question they immmediately go to the question you didn’t ask them.  In other words, they are making an assumption about what you’re trying to ask them about so they immediately start defending, giving excuses and reasons for why they can’t.  Someone is probably coming to mind already.  This is my thought for the month, it’s very easy to get into and then it’s a habit.  You now just do it and you don’t even realise you’re doing it.  You also get people apologising constantly, “Sorry, Sorry, Sorry”.  The problem is they think it’s an act of being respectful to you.  Actually, it’s annoying and frustrating.

This month I want you to take a little step back from yourself and see if there are any of these defensive posturing acts that your displaying.  If you are, what do you need to do about it?  A defensive posture is not a great way to go about communication or relationship building/maintenance.  It’s ok to challenge, it’s good to look at things to see them from different angles or points of view,  however, being defensive ALL the time will hinder your ability to move on, get on and get along with others.  It’ll be like having an anchor continually dragging you down.

So here’s the thought for this month:

  1. Have you got that defensive posture?
  2. Is there anything about you that can be seen, heard or interpreted as defensive?
  3. Are there people who work with you or for you that display a defensive posture?
  4. What are you going to do to help them?

Think about that for this month, I hope this helps you and your’re having a great month.

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